#ShopSmallDFW

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Saturday November 29th is Small Business Saturday.  This day was founded in 2010 by American Express to help raise awareness of the importance of Small Business America.  More of your spending dollar remains in the local community when you shop small and local.  Did you know that shopping at Nappy Shoppe, you help support SIXTEEN families!  True we have mostly part time staff, but that money goes home with them and stay in our community.  Our sales taxes stay local, and help support our local infrastructure, from roads, to police, to fire fighters and more.

When you come in and shop with us this month you get the chance to win gift certificates with some of our favourite local businesses.  Each time you shop with us you will get a ticket to put towards the gift certificate of your choice.  If you are a blue card rewards holder, then you get two tickets.

Here are the businesses we are offering gift certificates with:

And be sure to check out our vendors at our Small Business Bazaar.

 

Small Business Bazaar

Join us this Small Business Saturday for our Small Business Bazaar at the Nappy Shoppe.  Being a small business we want to show our support for other small businesses and we do so with our bazaar.  On Saturday November 29th from 1-4pm, these small businesses will have tables set up throughout our store and in our classroom.  We hope you will come and join us and #ShopSmallDFW.  I have linked the businesses Facebook pages (if they have one), be sure to go and like them.

The businesses joining us are:

  • Kindred Photographer – Brandi is a talented photographer who focuses on breastfeeding and babywearing shoots.  You will start to see more of her work on our own marketing materials.
  • Britany Quick Cakes by Britany for You – Come and enjoy some home baked goodness by Britany.  Rumour has it she will be bringing some gluten free goodies, as well as lactation cookies.
  • Wholemade by Jen – Jennifer has a line of organic, handmade skin care products, including a diaper rash balm.
  • OoDeLally Crystals - Zachary has the most divine one of a kind jewelry.  I have watched this man from the start of his business, and his work is phenomenal.
  • Baby Boot Camp - Come and find out about this great way to get fit with your baby!  Amanda will be on hand to answer any questions.
  • Mountain Hideout - Ashley, from this family owned local business, will be on hand to share their outdoor products for families and children.
  • Hippy Owl Freak – Amy, is a local watercolor artist, who’s work would make great unique holiday gifts.
  •  Mia Belles – Lauren makes the cutest hairbows and barefoot sandals.
  • Remade Hart – Angela makes upcycled jewelry and scarves.  Angela has done our bazaar in the past, and I grabbed her jewelry as gifts for my nieces.
  • LH Executive Services - Shaila is a lifestyle manager and professional organizer, who helps families get organized and alleviate the feeling of being overwhelmed.
  • Mini Hippy Boutique – Kimberly sells a range of cute leggings, dresses and tops.
  • Bountiful Blessings – Shannon sells a range of Christmas children’s clothing and accessories.

Be sure to tell your friends about this great event.

#ShopSmallDFW

SMB-Saturday

Buy a bag, Get a Gift Certificate

diaperbageventDo you love bags as much as I do?  Then treat yourself this week!  Come get that bag you have been eyeing off and get a gift certificate to spend on anything in the store. *  We have a great selection of diaper bags in stock!

Here is how it works.

Buy a diaper bag this week (11/18/14 to 11/22/14) at The Nappy Shoppe, and get a gift certificate.

  • Spend $50 on a bag and get a $10 gift certificate.
  • Spend $100 on a bag and get a $20 gift certificate.
  • Spend $150 on a bag and get a $30 gift certificate.
  • Spend $200 on a bag and get a $40 gift certificate.

So basically for every $50 you spend in diaper bags in store this week, you will get a $10 gift certificate.

Gift certificate is valid for use between December 1st to December 31st 2014.  Not valid with any other offer.  Gift certificate is only given out with bag purchases, not on other product purchases.  Valid in store only. Phone orders to 469-371-5448 welcome.  If you bought a bag between 11/1/14 and 11/17/14 we will back date it and give you gift certificates.  Just come in during the week of the offer and we will have the gift certificates for you.  Must come in to the store between 11/18/14 and 11/22/14 to get backdated purchase gift certificates.

PPD is a B**ch

About the author:  “My name is Sarah Carlock, mama of one Lily Rose, who constantly reminds me of my rookie status as a parent. She teaches me new things every day, which is find by me. I’m a knowledge junkie and a natural parenting enthusiast. I’m a babywearer, a breastfeeder, and aspiring doula. I am also a music lover, coffee fiend, beer drinker and a foodie.  My husband is either really lucky and a saint or has funny taste in women, but together, sometimes we make magic. “

Postpartum Depression …

It happens to a LOT of women. I think it must be pretty rough to get an actual number, because so many women either don’t realize what it is, or are too ashamed or guilt-ridden or too proud to come out with it. I think the scary thing is when we don’t admit it to ourselves, or to our partners. I think the scariest thing is when it goes untreated and unrecognized, because you start to wonder if you’re crazy or ungrateful or just a bitch.

Something that I realized is that, in talks about PPD and ‘baby blues,’ nobody tells you that it doesn’t necessarily have to do with the baby, or your abilities as a mother, or anything pertaining to parenthood. PPD can affect your self-love. It can affect your romantic relationship (I mean, not just in the new baby kind of way.) It can even affect how you relate to other people, outside your family, and how you see yourself as a human in general.

Something else I realized is that not everyone understands or sees it for what it is. Dustin didn’t. It’s not his fault, he is male and is inherently (and blissfully) immune to the sh*t show that is the female hormonal system. He could not understand why things made me cry ALL THE DAMN TIME, or why I hated my body and my mind for months, or why it affected my trust and my love. He couldn’t understand  why, without sense or reason, I was a different woman than the confident, fearless, and loving woman he married. Maybe he still doesn’t. This doesn’t make him a bad husband, he still loves me and spoils me and thinks I’m beautiful no matter what. Mostly, it’s just me who doesn’t see it.

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My ‘mama tribe’ were the only ones besides Dustin who knew about the depression. Women I met at the Nappy Shoppe, at mum’s groups and through my midwife. I felt guilty telling my family. Ashamed and ungrateful, even. They all had their respective issues at the time, and I couldn’t bring myself to say to them that I was broken and hurting. Not when they saw Lily Rose as the sunshine in the midst of their own stormy days. Not when my dad and his wife had a preemie in the NICU (What right did I have to be sad? My baby was healthy!)

My incredibly powerful circle of women was the support system that changed the game, or at least a very big part of it. Not just hearing their uplifting and empowering words, but seeing their own struggles, and sharing our journey of wifedom and motherhood and all the pertinent idiosyncrasies. Hearing about other women’s struggles somehow validated my own, and we found strength in each other. Retreats and talks and heart-to-hearts abounded. Tears flowed. Ya’ll.  Everyone’s normal is different. Just because we are privileged and healthy, or the 1%, or whatever, this does not discredit our hurts and our insecurities. We all have moments of weakness. And it’s ok.

Dustin and I have a crazy good love story. Sometimes, I forget that. Sometimes, we have knock-down, drag-out fights, often because I have forgotten who I was, and lost a lot of love for myself, and so I get insecure and unmotivated. Sometimes, I start sh*t. Sometimes, its because he’s a jerk. Whatever. I think what is going to save us is that HE hasn’t forgotten me. I’m still ME. He isn’t struggling with the mother-wife-Sarah balance. I mean, he definitely wishes I would do more dishes and vacuum during naps instead of cruising Instagram for LRC”s next cute leggings, but in general he knows who I am better than I do, and he knows we will be ok. He knows I will be ok.

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Lily Rose. That little girl, that diva, with her dimples and her sass, she has also helped me, in ways I didn’t know possible. Seeing her grow, making choices for her future, thinking about the kind of woman I want her to see as a role model, I HAVE to be ok. I can’t let the darkness win. And trust me, ‘the darkness’ is not a dramatization.That crap is REAL. It would get real dark and real scary sometimes. Self-loathing is UGLY. Especially when it has its claws in your trust and in your imagination.

It gets better, though, ya’ll. Through love, sisterhood, friendship, and even some Reiki and a boozy girls night or two, I am finding Sarah again. I’m not saying everything is back to normal, because THAT particular normality, my pre-baby ‘me,’ is not ever going to happen. I’m saying that I am finally starting to come out of that limbo, that haze of not knowing who or what I even am, of hating myself in pictures and being disgusted at what I see in the mirror. My body is new. It is not what it was. It is different, but not bad. I am healthy. I eat very well. I don’t smoke anymore. I don’t drink THAT MUCH. Also…. I had a dang baby, and I’m f**king lactating. I feed a human with my boobs. My body is BAD. ASS. I don’t look like Kate Upton in a bikini, but let’s be real, neither does Kate Upton.  (Although her girls are considerably bigger and perkier. Have a baby, lady.)

Some folks suggested after my ‘Who is Lily Rose?’ post that I write a ‘Who is Sarah Carlock?’ version. The thing is, I wouldn’t have written anything nice. I don’t even think it’d be completely nice even now, but it’s getting better. I will write that post, when I’m ready. When I find me again, and I can say that I’m happy and confident and PROUD of my damn self, I will write that. I’m getting there. This post is in no way intended to incite an avalanche of accolades or compliments. I’ll take all your positive energy and your support, though. And the next time you’re with a friend or loved one who has a new (or newish) baby, ask her how SHE is. Babies get loads of love. Don’t forget the vessel. Don’t ignore the goddess that bore that sweet cherub, because she might need some of that love. Be an ear, be a shoulder, be the strength. She will appreciate that more than I can tell you.

Pre-Loved Cloth Diaper Buy-Back Program

We have been asked so many times if we will buy back used diapers, and to date, we have done our swap days once every couple of months.  And invariably this means many miss out because the date does not work for them.  So now we are introducing our in store buy back program that is on going.  So here is how our new program will work.

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Do you have some cloth diapers that you just don’t use? Has baby potty trained? Maybe you washed a few, then decided they weren’t your favorites? Bring them back to Nappy Shoppe for store credit towards anything else in the store.

Nappy Shoppe currently accepts diapers from the brands we stock new with some exceptions for diapers we used to stock or are very familiar with. Diapers must be gently used and in excellent used condition.

  • Diapers should be clean and odor-free. Please wash and thoroughly dry diapers before bringing them in. Diapers should be free of stains, pet or human hair, lint, tears, fading, etc.
  • Snaps and Velcro should be fully intact and functional.
  • Elastic should be snug and functional.

When you bring in your diapers, we’ll look over them and make you an offer. We base our offer on condition and popularity of the diapers, as well as on what we already have stocked. You don’t have to accept our offer, but our offer is firm. As with any consignment or resale situation, the amount of credit we are able to offer you won’t be as much as you’d make if you sold your diapers on your own.

Buybacks are accepted most days but are subject to staff availability. If we are busy, or the right staff is not available, you will need to drop off your diapers for us to evaluate when we can.  We will contact you with an offer via phone or email.

We’ll offer store credit ONLY for your diapers. This store credit will never expire and can be used toward the purchase of anything in the store.

Nappy Shoppe reserves the right to refuse credit for any diapers for any reason.  We will only be selling pre-loved diapers in store only.  There are no returns on used diapers.  They may be brought back through the pre-loved system and an offer made if they are still in good condition.

The Decision to Wean – Not one to be judged

Recently on one of our private groups, one of our mothers posted about her decision to wean, and her fear of being judged for her decision.  I asked her if I could share her thoughts.  The decision of when to wean is a personal one, and not one that others should judge on.  So I am thankful to Alica S, for sharing her story.

Alicia S wrote “I apologize in advance, but this will be a long post. The subject of this post, though, is something that I feel is an important addition to this community. So here goes…

I love breastfeeding. I really do. But if you would have told me that I would get to this point when my baby was 3, 4, 5, 6 weeks old, I would have stared at in you disbelief. It was hard, harder than I ever could have imagined. And I struggled through days and nights, not even bothering to hold back the tears. I began to really worry that I wouldn’t make it to my original breastfeeding goal: 6 months. But then, somehow, it got better. I went back to work part-time (3 days a week) when my baby was 8 weeks old. We found a system and a schedule that worked for us. But it still hasn’t been easy. I have fought for it every step of the way. Less than 2 months after I went back to work, I began to have difficulty with pumping. I changed every part, valve, piece I could find. I rented a hospital-grade pump. I should have bought stock in coconut water because I started drinking it like it was going out of style. I took supplements, I upped my water intake. But I still didn’t pump effectively. But I was able to continue breastfeeding because I was only working part-time.

I don’t know what I would have done without the support I found through the Nappy Shoppe…PPD group, new mom group, and the friends I’ve made have helped me immensely. I was always a supporter of breastfeeding, and I knew intellectually that “breast is best.” Now, however, I am more than just a supporter; I am an advocate. And my baby is 8 months old and I have sustained her for her entire life.

I say all this to tell you where I’m coming from. I love breastfeeding. I love that time with my daughter. But I’m making the decision that it’s time to stop. I go back to work full-time in October and I know that I won’t be able to pump enough to fill her ever-increasing bottles. And I’m ok with my decision. I will cry, I will be jealous when I see a mama nursing her baby, but I will also look at her and be filled with self-pride. I did more than I ever thought possible. I gave my baby the best for 8 months, and I’m damn proud of that. And it’s ok for me to stop. I’m sure some of you will say that I could do more. You’re right, I probably could. But not without sacrificing the diminishing time I get to spend with my daughter once I work more. And that seems counter intuitive. Some of you may even offer me some of your milk. I will be grateful and overwhelmed by your generosity. But I won’t be able to take it. I know there are other mamas that need it much more than we do.

So for all the moms in this group who struggle, you are doing an amazing job. But if it becomes too much; if you have weighed all the factors and feel that continuing to breastfeed puts more stress and strain on your already frazzled nerves, it’s ok to stop. You will still find support and another mom to look at you and say, “You did a damn fine job. You gave your baby something incredible.”

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Alicia and her daughter Ellisyn.

 

A little while back, a new mama posted here that she was fighting and struggling and asked if she was crazy for wanting to stop breastfeeding. I was afraid to tell her, no, you’re not crazy for doing everything you can and hitting your limit. I was afraid of looking unsupportive if I told her it’s ok to stop. But sometimes, giving a mama grace to do what she feels is best is the most supportive thing you can do. Even if you don’t agree with that decision.”

About Alicia

Alicia writes “My name is Alicia Schulze, and even 8 months into this crazy new life, calling myself Ellisyn’s mother is still something I’m getting used to! I love taking walks with my husband, our daughter, and our pup. I can’t imagine trying to function without caffeine, especially since my to-do list is always longer than there are hours in the day. Everyday, I try to remind myself of the best piece of parenting advice, which was bestowed upon me by the incredible Nappy Shoppe community – Give yourself grace, mama; grace to make mistakes and learn from them, grace to revel in your successes with the support of a mama tribe.”

Sarah on Breastfeeding

Sarah C, is one of our regulars at the store, well loved by all of the team here.  She has kindly shared her experiences starting out with breastfeeding and how the Nappy Shoppe breastfeeding cafe helped her.  See below for more about her.

 Sarah writes:

There are a lot of breastfeeding-related things out, these days. Should you, shouldn’t you? Benefits, health reasons, ability. Should you nurse in public? Should you cover up? Endless women spending countless hours worrying about OTHER PEOPLE’S feelings and beliefs about breastfeeding, when the truth is, it’s hard enough as it is without trying to consider how someone else feels about your boobs.

The thing is, when I was pregnant, I just KNEW I wanted to breastfeed. And, as it goes when one is pregnant, literally EVERYONE ELSE was an expert on the matter. Tips on how to nurse, how long to nurse, when to wean, how to wean, what to eat to help promote lactation, how I would have to be sober for yet ANOTHER year. (Trust me, I knew that one.) But then, I was discouraged by more than a few. “Your boobs are gonna look like pancakes.” “You won’t lose weight until after you’re done lactating.” Like… mind your own tits.

What not one single person told me was, BREASTFEEDING IS HARD. Like, actually physically having a tiny human with superhero suction powers latch on to a super sensitive part of my body that is tender and, up until recently, was kind of just a sex thing. Nobody told me that my nipples would crack, and bleed, and that I would dread the baby’s hunger cues because I knew the pain that was en route. I didn’t think it was normal to cry at every feeding (which, with a newborn, is every two hours. Yeah.) Some nights I would sit on the couch and feed her so my crying wouldn’t wake up my husband. Some nights, the crying woke him up anyway.

Something else I didn’t know was there is help available. My midwife sent me to the Nappy Shoppe to their breastfeeding support group, the Breastfeeding Café. There, I found a group of women who, like me, were new to nursing and were dealing with a lot of the same issues I was.

IT WAS ALL NORMAL.

Yep. Aaaallll normal. I mean, obviously not normal in the sense of being the desired objective, but my struggles were par for the course in new motherhood. The lactation consultants (Cheyenne and Lydia) helped me reposition, rearrange and renew my faith in my ability to breastfeed. Two weeks after my first attendance, I had my first painless night. And the next night, ALSO painless. Sweet Mercy! I can do this!

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I was by no means done with that support group. I stayed until my baby was twice the size of the new nurslings. I stayed until I had every faith and every confidence in our nursing relationship. I stayed, and was welcome. I found a circle of friends, confidants, and cohorts that I still turn to today for all things baby and nursing and motherhood related. We have been going for nine months strong and see no signs of stopping. I can truly say, to any mother beginning her breastfeeding journey, or feeling lost in an existing one, GO GET HELP. You can do this. No matter where you choose to feed your baby, or who tells you you can or can’t, you can do it. It DOES get better.

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Sarah C writes about herself “My name is Sarah Carlock, mama of one Lily Rose, who constantly reminds me of my rookie status as a parent. She teaches me new things every day, which is find by me. I’m a knowledge junkie and a natural parenting enthusiast. I’m a babywearer, a breastfeeder, and aspiring doula. I am also a music lover, coffee fiend, beer drinker and a foodie.  My husband is either really lucky and a saint or has funny taste in women, but together, sometimes we make magic. “

Breastmilk Pops for Teething

Teething is a common reason many folk come into the Nappy Shoppe.  They come for teething tablets, amber, silicone jewelry and teething tablets.  Recently on one of our mums boards, several of the girls shared about how they made breastmilk pops to sooth sore gums.  Jess A, kindly wrote for me, her how to make breastmilk pops.

Jess writes “One of Abi’s favorite things to help her with the discomfort of teething has been breastmilk pops!

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Initially, I had trouble getting the breastmilk from the bottle to the ice cube tray so I improvised and used the flange from my pump as a funnel!

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The fun part for me is using cute ice cube trays so the breastmilk pops make fun shapes. However, any ice cube tray will do the trick.  

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Give it about an hour or two for the breastmilk to freeze and then put it in a mesh container and BAM! You have a happy baby.  I hope y’all have as much fun with it as we do!

About Jess A.

jessruthJess writes “I’m Jess. Wife to Marshall and mommy to 7 month old Abigail. I am a first time mom.  A stay-at-home mom (I hadn’t planned on that) trying to figure out this whole parenting gig. It’s hard!  Even though it is hard, there are sweet moments where this little bitty human steals my heart and takes my breath away and I wouldn’t trade that for the world.”

 

 

When you or baby are sick …

PSA – It appears that the back-to-school illnesses are already upon us. We at The Nappy Shoppe strive to make our store a safe environment for babies of all ages, especially newborns and pregnant moms.

Staff has a strict sick policy – if we suspect ourselves or our children to be ill, we do not come in to work or make alternate care arrangements for the kiddos for a full 24 hours past last symptom. We do this to prevent staff kids from passing illness back and forth, but more importantly to keep them from passing their illness on to customers. We ask that you, as customers and friends, afford us the same courtesy. If staff kids get sick and start sharing their germs with each other, then our small staff becomes even smaller and we have difficulty covering all the hours that the store is open.

Staff understands the risks of illness associated with having their kiddos around other kids, but we need your help to keep everyone healthy. If you suspect that you or your child may be ill, even if you do not think it is contagious, please consider postponing your trip to the Nappy Shoppe.

If you need something immediately, like detergent or Punkin Butt Teething Oil, then please wear your little one and refrain from touching the toys or other merchandise. We can also take your order and payment over the phone and bring it out to your car. We can answer many cloth diaper and breastfeeding questions over the phone, as well.

Sometimes illness strikes unexpectedly, and we understand that some things are out of our control. However, if you or your child become ill at the store, we ask that you clean up after yourself and go home for the day. Our staff does not have the necessary gear (masks, etc) to clean up bodily fluids without risking getting sick ourselves. We ask this courtesy from you to help keep everyone’s kids healthy throughout cold and flu season, but also so that new moms can feel comfortable bringing their newborns in to get lactation help from the Cafe.

If we all follow these guidelines, we can avoid unnecessary exposure to germs for all our kiddos.

Thank you.  The Nappy Shoppe Team.

6th Birthday Giveaway!

Nappy Shoppe is turning 6 this August.  We love to celebrate our birthday and this time we are doing it bigger than ever. We have some great giveaways.

1) Baby Hawk Oh Snap (No print substitutions)

2) Sakura Bloom Pure Ring Sling (Choose from in stock colors)

3) Chimparoo Regular 4.5m Woven Wrap (Choose from in stock colors)

4) Bum Genius Freetime Cloth Diaper -Chaplin Print (No print substitutions)

5) Econobum Newborn Kit (No substitutions)

6) Itzy Ritzy Nursing Scarf (Choose from in stock prints)

7) TokiDoki Be Light JuJuBe Bag (Choose from in stock Tokidoki prints)

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How it works

Every time you make a purchase during August 2014 you will get a ticket to put towards the prize of your choice. VIP (Blue Reward Card) Customers get TWO tickets. Applies only to one purchase on the day. Does not apply to second or subsequent purchases.

Prizes will be drawn Tuesday September 2nd.

Winners will be notified by phone and will be required to pick up their prize in store within 2 weeks or the prize will be redrawn.

Please note there will only be one prize won per family.  If a customer is drawn for a second time, we will redraw so that everyone has a good chance at winning a prize.

If you are an online customer, you do not miss out!  When you are checking out, be sure to put in the comments box what you prize you want your ticket to go towards!